The life of minority women in America is rather tough and complicated. The cruel racial discrimination hinders their dream of assimilating into mainstream. In order to be accepted,they do social performance that meets the expectations of mainstream audiences. However, by doing the inappropriate performance, they fall into the colonizers’ trap of mimicry, forming the distorted "Me". The misunderstanding of culture caused by idealization should be resolved by rebuilding "I". This article takes Velina Hasu Houston’ s Tea as the object of research in order to discuss the social performance of five "war brides", as well as the strategy of life that they pursue in the process of balancing "I" and "Me".