The most important ethic of being-with was showing respect for the uniqueness of the bereaved when someone would like to provide bereavement care. The caregivers themselves were therapeutic instruments for catalyzing healing as they were being with the bereaved. One must have good tools in order to do a good job. A caregiver's therapeutic use of self to be a wound healer ensures the value of his/her presence and being. Between suffering and life perspectives based on helping relationships and boundaries to reflect the ethics of being-with in bereavement care were noticed. We proposed that caregivers' well self-prepared by being-with enabled them to be close to the weaknesses and frailness of human beings. This helped them affect the lives of other people and provide a touching final farewell based on empathy. The foundation of bereavement care must be centered on one's being with deep and comprehensive understanding. When caregivers helped the bereaved to express and accept a full range of grief feelings, hurting commonly became a part of the healing possibly. It was appropriate ethically while benefits and harm of being-with during bereavement care were balanced. Health caregivers working in loss and grief situations and being with mourners must attempt to modulate loss and grief situations without escapes in order to become a formidable internal motivation to help others. Under these circumstances, one's self-reflection, self-struggle and self-shaping were factors critically influencing whether the quality of being-with others can be enhanced.