This paper examines the literature on strategic triangle and the pivotrole, compares German diplomacy under Otto von Bismarck of 1875-1890and the China policy of the US in the 1990s as two "unintending pivots," andanalyzes the cause of tilling between wings by unintending pivots. We findsated powers are more interested in a menage a trios than a romantic triangle.When such powers take the role of a pivot, the chances are that they are"unintending pivots." Secondly, for unintending pivots tilling between wingsis determined not by elite strategic thinking, but by domestic politics. In thecase of the US China policy, Washington's tilt towards either Taipei orBeijing is determined by the balance of power between idealism and realism,which in turn is synchronized with the presidential electoral cycles.Whenever presidential elections approach, or the opposition candidatedefeats the incumbent (or candidate from the incumbent party), then idealismsurges and Washington tilts towards Taipei. During the inter-election periods,however, realism rules and Washington tilts towards Beijing. Finally,compared with intending pivots, unintending pivots are less committed totheir role in the strategic triangle, and are more prone to make structural tiltstowards one wing, thus transforming a romantic triangle to a marriage.