本研究目的在以焦慮依附型大學生為例加以探討衝突原因、處理方式及對愛情關 係的影響。針對研究目的，本研究問題有三：(1)焦慮依附大學生，在交往過程中，產生衝突 的原因為何？(2)處理衝突的方式為何？(3)衝突處理方式對彼此關係的影響為何？ 　　依研究目的，本研究以「人際依附風格量表」為工具，在彰化師大二、三年級學生中。 選出十四位目前有戀愛經驗之焦慮依附大學生，並得他們同意進行訪談，為能真實反應個人 經驗，本研究以質研究中的深度訪談法，以半結構的訪談大綱進行訪談以收集資料，並以開 放性編碼方式來分析資料。所得結論如下： 　　研究者據受訪者所分享的經驗，發現(1)造成衝突的原因有四大類：「對關係的期待不 同」、「因對對方的不滿」、「過度自我涉入」及「因應外在阻撓因素的差異態度」，而在「對關 係的期待不同」這個大類下的「你怎沒把我放在心上」，這個因素是最多受訪者所提到的經驗。 (2)焦慮依附型大學生在處理衝突的方式，依處理的焦點，可分為：「針對情緒處理」、「針對 問題處理」、「不處理」這三大類，且發現前兩類的方式較常使用，而較少使用第三類的方式。 而其中「針對問題處理」這個大類下的「表達自己的狀況」是最多的受訪者提到的狀況。(3) 至於處理方式對關係影響的發現為：對關係會產生正向的影響的方式為「反省自己」及「調 整自己」，對關係會產生負向影響的方式為「情緒性的語言發洩」、「爭吵」及「轉移話題」， 而「冷戰」及「讓步」這兩種方式四關係影響的情形較為複雜：在「冷戰」之後，對方若以 「詢問」或是「表達自已的狀況」作為反應時，對關係多半是正面的影響，但若在「冷戰」 之後，對方的反應是「轉移話題」的話，對關係則反而是負面的影響。「讓步」對關係的影響 則是會有正負向的雙極反應，這之間的差異端賴於受訪者的心態而定；若受訪者樂於扮演這 樣的角色，對關係的影響為正向，但若受訪者覺之不公平時，對關係的影響是負向。 本研究亦針對上述研究結果加以討論，最後根據研究結果與限制，針對兩性教育、諮商 實務工作、及後續研究方法上，提出若干建議。

　　　　　The purpose of this study was to investigate anxious attachment college student's reasons for conflict、conflict mangament and its effect in love realationship. The participants in this study was high anxious attachment on ? Interpersonal attachment style scale ? and were in love experience during the period of the study. All forteen participants were junior or senior of National Chang-hua University of Education. The Qualitive method was adopted. Semi-structured interview was employed to collect data. The open coding was selected to analyze the data. The main finding were as follows. (1) As the reasons for conflict. ? the difference in their expectation of relationship ? ? being unsatisified with the other ? ? excessive self-involvement ? ? the difference attitude toward external obstacle ? were four main reasons. ? Why don't you keep me on your mind ? , the factor under the ? difference in their expectation of relationship ? , was the reason reported by the participants most frequently. (2) As conflict mangament, it could be classified into three. Categories: focusing on ? emotion mangament ? 、? problems themselves ? and ? suspending the problems alone ? . The first two methods wre used more frequently, the last one was used less. ? Expressing self condition ? , the factor under the ? focusing on problems themselves ?, was the reason reported by the participants most frequently. (3) Regarding the effect on the love relationship. However, ? to vent one feeling through language emotionally ?、 ? quarrels ? and ? to change the topic of conversation ? had negative effect. The two methods for conflict mangament were more complicated, one is ? cold war ? , the other is ? yielding ? . After ? old war? , ? inqury ? and ? self-expression ? from one of the couple had positive effects on their relationship, on the contrary, ? to change the topic of communication ? had negative effects. While ? yielding ? influened the relationship in both postive and negative way. Depended on the participants attitude toward yielding If the participants felt confortable to yield, postive effects participants felt comfortable to yield, postive effects rose. If they felt unfair, negative effects came up. Disscussion of the finding was proposed. Based on the results and limitations of this study, suggestion were made for gender education, the practice of counseling and the future research.