本研究旨在探討被單戀者拒絕單戀者的拒絕歷程，以及於其中所經驗到的認知、情緒與行為內涵。研究者邀請到七位研究對象，年齡在24到30歲之間，採用紮根理論為研究方法，逐步形成出被單戀經驗之發展脈絡。研究結果發現：被單戀者拒絕歷程通常會經歷「相識互動」、「明白了」、「接受與否」、「如何拒絕」、「拒絕」與結局」六階段。「相識互動」階段裡「明白了」階段中，被單戀者大都會出現驚訝與愉悅的感受，認為有人喜歡是不錯的經驗。「接受與否」階段的心理經驗主要出現在認知的評估，被單戀者會根據「對方個人條件」、「有無愛情的吸引」、「自我狀態」與「互動的關係品質」四個標準來決定是否接受對方的示愛。被單戀者確定無法接受對方後，即進入傷腦筋的「如何拒絕」階段。由於缺乏可供參考的適當拒絕腳本，在「拒絕」階段雖然採取間接或直接的拒絕行為，但在情緒上卻明顯感受到不舒服與罪惡感；而單戀者的反應也會影響被單戀者的後續反應與表現。單戀者是否放棄，是整個拒絕經驗是否結束的關鍵。

This study explored the process in which the rejecters decided not to accept the would-be lover as well as understood their psychological experiences. Seven participants, aged between 24 and 30, were interviewed and the data were analyzes based on ground theory, the results shoed that the data were analyzes based on ground theory. The results showed that the rejecters generally went through six phases of the rejection process, including “the initial contact and acquaintance”, “being aware of being loved”, “to accept or not to”, “how to reject”, “rejecting”, and “the termination of being involving in the unrequited love”. The rejecters felt surprised and joyful when they knew someone liked them in the very beginning. However, the positive or neutral feelings turned to be negative when they moved to the following phase, i.e., how to reject the would-be lover without hurting them. The rejecters experienced guilty feelings when they tried to reject and afterwards became annoyed as the would-be lovers did not give up. The whole experiences did not end until the rejecters adopted straight strategies of rejection and the would-be lovers did not give up. The whole experiences did not end until the rejecters adopted straight strategies of rejection and the would-be lovers gave up.